Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Two Adults, One House, No Fun....

Over at www.dreamingbigdreams.net Jamie wrote about loving our husbands and our children. I enjoyed her post and read it feeling quite overwhelmed and guilty. Curt and I do NOT make time for Date Nights, not once a week, not once a month and we barely squeak by with once a year (I think it usually ends up being his Companies Christmas Party). I am ashamed to say that our children have taken over our lives. :-(

I guess it isn't bad to be involved in your children's lives, but I think we have been overrun with them and their activities...we have become two adults just living in the same home.
We commented to each other the other night (a rare stop and talk to each other moment) that we each felt in a rut...Football x 2, Cheer x 2, AWANA's x 4 kids etc....it goes on and on. We both feel that we spend so much time running from activity to activity, barely meeting in bed at a late bed time, that we never get to enjoy each others company or just 'be'.

I feel we have begun surviving life, not living it.

It has been 4 years or more since we have gone camping....a vacation-YEAH RIGHT! I cannot remember one, alone or with our children.

I hope this changes once Football is over...that we can make it a PRIORITY to spend time with just us...to remember that we should not and can not wait until the kids are grown to do this. It must be important, to be taught to our children that we are as important to ourselves and each other as they are to us. Hopefully in doing this, we will cement their worth in themselves and future spouses.

1 comment:

Lorenz Family Blog said...

Have you been reading our mail?!? LOL! I couldn't agree with you more. Yet, not only is what our kids see in our marriage a reflection of the Bride to Christ, but we are not the best we can be for the kids, either. We almost never date or do anything, just like you, two adults living in the same house. But we have recently been meeting with a godly older couple in our church to help us get ideas & refocus on our marriage, so we're NOT just surviving. Thank you for sharing! It's nice to know we are not alone....