Well, we have been waiting to get out of IBESR (Haitian Social Services) for about 4 months now. We are anxious since we don't have any idea on a time frame since it can vary from 2 weeks to 10 months in some cases....just depends on how much of an a-hole the Director wants to be. Well, the Director we have currently is a BIG a-hole and has not been signing unless bribes are given.
Most days people ask us why we don't have our children home yet, when are they coming, how are you surviving this? I know that they may feel like we are being scammed, if they don't know
what I do as a calling and that I have done this twice for our family and more than I can count for others. I never really have an answer for them other than it will all happen in God's timing, not ours. Hard thing to remember some days, but well worth it though. ;-)
You see, we decided to adopt Kai last May I believe...it has now been a year of people knowing we were adopting. We added Nikaya on in late August early September when she came to the orphanage. Our home study was began in June, our social worker had 3 weeks off, papers came to us slowly etc. and we didn't get our completed dossier to Haiti until November. In the grand scheme of things, being in Haiti since November and it being May is not a bad time frame.....just all the crap that had to take time beforehand and everyone knowing we were adopting has made our time frame seem unimaginable to most...and some days, us!
I went in Feb, to see our kids. To meet Nikaya for the first time and to see Kai for the first time as my child. It was amzing trip. I spent 4 wonderful days with my babies taking care of them at the guest house. Kai remembered me and Nikaya would have NOTHING to do with me. ;-) I cannot blame her though, I was probably the first white person she had ever seen and I wanted to put my lips all over her! Haiti had been fairly volatile and mission trips had been stalled and no one was able to travel until recently.
I am happy to say that after about 1 hour, several animal crackers and convincing, she thought I wan't that bad after all. Once she decided I was ok I was not allowed to put her anywhere but on my hip...she was like a leech, and I loved it. Kai adapted much easier since he is older, but still checked me out from time to time. One incident is when Kai grabbed a washcloth and tried to wash off my tattoo. He kept telling Dr. Bernard that someone had drawn on his mama. This was not good for Dr. B to know since he didn't know I had a tattoo.
This is not to say that Dr. B would have a problem with my tattoo....but it is alot like telling your father that you did something that you don't think he would be very proud of. He examined my ankle and tattoo (which is religious) and then took a closer look at my nose piercing, several ear piercings etc (which total 9 cranial accessories as my hubby says). He smiled and said that he is glad he knew my heart before he knew my face and that I was beautiful in the eyes of God. I gave him a hug and we laughed. I know that he would have liked me in spite of the piercings and tat, but in Haiti they are not things you see...I think at all. I did get quite a few stares, but nothing I could not handle. ;-) Just thought I would bring a little 'culture' to Haiti! hehe
Well, I am rambling and the kids want breakfast, I had better go!
Until later!!!
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